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What to teach childminded children about stranger danger

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Updated 27/09/2022

It is a statutory requirement that the childminded children are ‘within our sight or hearing at all times’. Never-the-less I don’t know a single childminder who hasn’t at some point found themselves in the frightening situation of losing a child. It is at these rare moments when childminded children find themselves alone that they may need to know what to do about the problem of strangers.

All children need a basic message about strangers that you can build on as they grow older. For the youngest children the message needs to be simple and direct without being too scary. Ultimately, by the time they are walking home alone from school, you hope that every child will know what to do in the unlikely event of a ‘stranger’ winding down the car window and offering them a lift!

What is a Stranger?

The first thing that small children need to be able to do is to understand what a stranger is. Many children of pre-school age will have no idea what it means to be a ‘stranger’ even if those same children may already sound like they know catch phrases like ‘say no to strangers’ or ‘don’t talk to strangers’. So don’t let children fool you!

a stranger in a car talking to school children

Talk about what a stranger is with children while you are out and about. This is not as straightforward as it initially sounds. At a most basic level, a stranger can be described as someone that we don’t know or someone that we don’t know well. Children need to know that while most strangers are kind, there are some who might not be.

Test their understanding by pointing to people randomly on the street. Is he a stranger? Yes. Is she a stranger? Yes. When you do this you will find that there are many people who fall into the category of ‘sort-of’ – the man who walks the dog that we say ‘good morning’ to each day on the school run is not a complete stranger but we don’t know his name or even which house he lives in. When in doubt about ‘sort-of-strangers’ my policy is to teach the children to always treat sort-of-strangers as strangers.

Never GO Anywhere with a Stranger

The message ‘don’t talk to strangers’ that we may have learned as children ourselves doesn’t make sense to children because it is contradictory and is no longer taught routinely to children. Not only do adults talk to strangers all the time, they frequently encourage small children to introduce themselves to strangers or even to trust strangers.

One key message many people use today is: Never GO anywhere with a stranger. This way the child understands that while it is ok to talk to strangers, you must never go anywhere with one.

Depending on the age and maturity of the children you look after you could consider practicing this one too. When we were in the local supermarket I would ask the three and four year olds questions like this:

“Suppose a man comes up to you and says, ‘can you show me where the bread aisle is?’ What should you do?’”

The child must reply to the imaginary man: “No, I’m sorry but I’m not allowed to go anywhere with a stranger.”

Try this exercise in several places and several imaginary situations. Keeping it light-hearted while stressing the seriousness of the message is a great way to practice so that the children are aware of what to do.

As children get older you can extend this message to strangers in cars, strangers at the park, etc. This basic message works where ‘don’t talk to strangers’ fails because it naturally develops as the child gets older.

Never take gifts or sweets from a stranger

The message about never taking gifts from a stranger is another important message for the pre-school age group. Practice this one too until the children can chorus the ‘right’ answer back at you.

“What if you’re at the park, and a little old lady is offering all the children sweets. All your friends have taken one. They’re your favourites. Should you take one?”

The child must reply to the imaginary old lady: “No thank you, I’m not allowed to take sweets from strangers.”

Again, as the children get older, this message will grow with them and ‘sweets’ will come to represent many of the other things that children should not accept from strangers.

Who are “Safer Strangers”?

Three key points are:

  • A safer stranger is a person who is working at a job which helps people. Safer strangers will often be wearing a uniform. Safer strangers could be police officers, traffic wardens, shopkeepers, check-out assistants, and others.
  • Safer buildings could be banks, post offices, libraries, medical centres, shops, supermarkets, leisure centres, and others.
  • If you get lost, or feel unsafe, and there is no adult around that you know and trust, look for a safer stranger who you can ask for help. If you can’t see a safer stranger outside, look for a safer building you can go into, to ask for help from the people who work there.

Talk together about the safer strangers and safer buildings in your area. Identify some of the safer strangers in your area – the supermarket like the example in the film is a wonderful, practical starting point for the youngest children.  

Practice and review

Like all things you are teaching children, the best way to learn something is to review it. While you are out and about occasionally it’s a great idea to spring a ‘quiz’ on the children. Is that person a stranger? What would you do if….. and make them think.

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  1. Anne Riggs says:

    My son years ago had a story on cassette which helped to teach them to stay safe with adults they did know – I remind my young mindees that if someone we know asks us to go with them they need to say I have to let my mum/dad or other adult who is looking after them know first before they go anywhere so their adult doesn’t get worried when they can’t find them. This helps them stay safe from known adult abuse without frightening them.

  2. Pauline Delaney says:

    Thanks Kay. Great information as always.

  3. Nicole Murrell says:

    Thanks Kay

    It is a difficult thing to handle. It is my next month’s plan so this will all come in very useful

    Sent from my iPhone


  4. Arminda Afonso says:

    thank you. is any updates ? for new version Early years outcomes 2013??

  5. Helen b says:

    Thanks. I’ve been thinking of doing stranger danger but wasnt sure what to say. this is very helpful.

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